I have been noticing lately that a great number of people, through social media seem transfixed on ridding themselves of all the “negative” people in their lives. While this is a great idea, I think we need to define what is true negativity.

The person who is truly a negative force in your life is someone who tries to place hurdles in front of you. This may appear in the form of ideas they will feed to you. Or it may present itself in the form of someone physically doing something to inhibit your progress. It does not mean the person who may have said no to you because they are unable to help you at this time.

If you drop every person who says no to you, you will end up with a very short list of those to count on. Inevitably, these few people will run out of resources to assist you in the long run. It is important to recognize the difference here to avoid losing those who may be of assistance at a later time. You may not be in the position of helping someone when they might need it the most, but that does not make you a negative person. You might be able to assist them at another time. But if they cut you loose from their database they will never know.

Take care before eliminating people entirely. Weigh all the options while defining the negative impact others are having in your life, and remember to give more service than is required. It will come back to you tenfold!