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Is the one that takes place within yourself. Your thoughts are your guidance system upon which your actions are

dictated. It is a truly amazing thing how we can all be controlled in this way. This inner conversation is what can

transform a life from ordinary to extraordinary.

I am not necessarily talking about rags to riches here. However, that could definitely be a possible outcome. But

the transition from self doubt into belief can be a long road for a lot of people. You see most people think that it

will take a MAJOR shift in their lives to create a difference. When in fact the opposite is true. It is the SMALL changes

that have the most long lasting results.

Self doubt is not limited to young people. It is also rampant among adults as well. Consider someone who has been

in a career for 20 years. They may have been educated at a certain level. Then as the years went by the requirements

of their job have changed. In order to maintain their position or get another job at the same level they have to go

back to school for an additional degree.

The challenge for them comes in the form of believing that after so many years they CAN go BACK to school ! In

addition to working full-time they will have to attend classes at night and study. Just the thought of this entire

process is enough to create a very negative inner conversation.

Yet, as the conversation is going on time is going by. It becomes a stumbling block to success. It only takes ONE class

to make a start towards the degree. With each class they take the goal gets closer. And with each step the inner

dialogue changes. Self-doubt is slowly replaced with the idea that the goal can and will be reached.

Another obstacle in achieving self confidence are our outside influences. The people who try to tell us that we cannot

make it. They use their words to fill us with self doubt. The reason they do this is not because they think we CANNOT

make it. In fact the opposite is true. What they are witnessing is someone who has potential. Someone who can do great

things.

It is their FEAR that they want to spread. But we have the power to STOP that from entering our everyday thoughts. By

focusing on where we are going, we can prevent negative thoughts. Our inner conversation will then contain a more

positive tone.

Remember, the only person you can control is yourself. The only person you can change is yourself. By working on

improving yourself you will not have any time to listen to anyone else's negativity!!

#self doubt,#inner conversation,#hope

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Should be as carefully planned as maneuvering your pieces around a chess board. This isn't to say that you must literally count all of your steps. The idea here is to consider all of your options before making your NEXT MOVE. That can be more difficult than you would think depending on your circumstances. Unlike a chess board it is not always possible to see the pitfalls of a decision before it has been made. Especially if there are other factors involved ,such as time constraints or emotional turmoil. Quite honestly, it is usually under this sort of pressure that most of us must make major decisions.

Under duress, your thinking can become clouded and our abilities questioned. The challenge is to stay focused and SLOW things down. Two weeks before this past Christmas, my car was hit while parked. The damage did not look too bad at first. And I was able to drive it the following morning as I was heading to a Yankee Swap. I decided to stop at an ATM to get some cash. When I opened the door to the car the wind pushed it so far opened it would not close. It was a very chilly morning with wind chills bringing the 35 degrees down to -2. I called a body shop and they came and towed the car in. I sat in that car freezing for an hour and had plenty of time to do some thinking.

It would be a month before I got my Dodge Caliber back. In the meantime I drove a luxurious midsize vehicle that was fully loaded. Needless to say I was in absolutely no rush to get back into my little car with crank windows. But when the time came for me to turn in the rental I had some other pressing matters to attend to. I had an engine light that refused to stay OFF. I had replaced the part responsible for this malfunction three times. My mechanic told me it was time to call it a day. I could not even think about getting a new car. I had too many other things going on. What I needed was TIME.

When I picked up my car something fascinating happened! The engine light was OFF!! I could not believe it.The very next morning I went and had an oil change. You see the part that was malfunctioning directly affected the oil check engine light. This was all very crucial because I needed an inspection sticker. The one I had was due to expire at the end of January. That meant by the time I picked up the car I had less than two weeks. After the oil change I had to drive the car 100 miles before I could get a sticker. Every day I got behind the wheel and prayed that light would stay OFF. And guess what? It did!! I was able to get a sticker that was good for a year.

By slowing things down in my mind and taking it one step at a time ( along with some divine intervention) I was able to get some more TIME. That time I received permitted me to look around and see what my options would be for a replacement vehicle!!

Give yourself the gift of having OPTIONS!! This can be done by thinking through your next MOVE!!

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It is more important to use the cards you have been dealt in order to play the game than it is to wish for the winning cards. After all it is about strategy anyway. Even those who have the winning cards do not always have a winning strategy and can be bluffed into folding. Use what you have within you to perfect your game and the cards will follow.

Remember, to give more service than is required and you will receive tenfold!

We all have a VOICE. And we all use it in very different ways. Some people are blessed to be able to ALWAYS speak their mind no matter what. They feel as though they do not owe the world anything. In fact THEY are so important that the WORLD may owe them something. Every little thing they think about is something that is very valuable to anyone they come into contact with. And for the benefit of man and womankind they are ready to educate us in the CORRECT way of being and acting.

The rules they live by are in fact what they refer to as a CODE. If we are lucky enough to TRULY understand what they are talking about we might just be able to be as successful as they have been. Only when we adopt their ways and vernacular are they able to HE...

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There is something special about the aftermath of a storm. Last night the Boston area experienced blizzard like conditions. There was a statewide warning for all people to stay off of the roads. Unless of course it was essential personnel. I watched from my living room window as the snow was being whipped around as though it were in a blender.

By eight o’clock last night the only cars on the road were either plows or police. Nature’s music was the howling wind. As I watched the continued frenzy of the storm, I became grateful for being in a warm dry place. I often think of those who have no place to call home when the weather becomes inclement. It would be so easy to get lost in the whirlwind that mother nature unleashed.

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After all the anticipation CHRISTMAS is finally here! WE have all shopped and taken advantage of every sale that has come our way. And with all of the advances in technology, those black Friday coupons are available on our smartphones. All we have to do is open the email and the cashier will scan it right there at the register. The days of clipping coupons has gone by the wayside!

When the stores finally closed for the big day, we are all left with whatever we were able to buy. Some of us will question whether the gift we got will be suitable for the person we are giving it to. Our deepest hope is to WOW the recipient! Let’s face it, if someone gets really excited about our gift it means the world to us!

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With the Turkey and all the fixings behind us, the rush for the perfect Christmas gift looms ahead. We have been warned through the onslaught of advertisements, that this day was coming. The actual time it will occur depends on the store you want to go to.

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