Propagating Purpose !
There is so much going on in the world today around mindfulness and relaxation. Let's face it the two past years have taken the world in a direction that no one could have seen coming. From lock down's to saying in place, even the comfort of our own homes became a place that created additional stress and anxiety.
Some people have developed a fear of going outside PERIOD as a result of all of this.They do not want to venture out into their own back yards or patio. The reality in all of this is.. it's going to be a long road BACK once the pandemic begins to become more manageable.
The question I am asked most frequently from my clients is " Where do I begin to manage myself and those emotions that become barriers to doing even the simplest of things like leaving my home?" I have some suggestions to help begin this process. Today I will share with you one of the five steps I use with my clients.
Step one is probably the most difficult for people because it is not in our nature to seek forgiveness but rather to grant it to others. If you think about it for a minute, we have a tendency to have more empathy for others than we do for ourselves. We find it easy to tell a friend or a co-worker that it's okay if they are having a bad day or struggling a little bit. But when it comes to doing that for ourselves, it's not quite so easy.
So the first step in managing these emotions of anxiety and stress lies in forgiving ourselves. YES there it is I said it ! LOOK in the mirror and say to that person looking back at you , its ok to struggle! Admit you are struggling and forgive yourself for being in the situation you are in !
I had to this for myself , look in the mirror at myself and say "I forgive you!" I remember the emotions I felt when I did this, I began to cry. It was the first time I allowed myself to FEEL something other than the stress associated with trying to OVERCOME! I had spent so much energy on trying to BE everything to everyone that I lost track of ME!
My forgiveness came at a time when I was recovering from breast cancer surgery, and a divorce. Yes it all happened at the same time. You know that life does not happen one event at a time. I had to forgive myself for mot healing as quickly as I wanted to, for not being able to financially give my children the things they wanted while maintaining a roof over our heads, and for running behind on bills when I had more of them than what was in my paycheck.
Step# 1 for this week is begin to forgive yourself !!